The Heart & Holdings Blog
Practical tools for money, communication, and the mental load
Weekly articles for couples, and anyone trying to get on the same page with the person they love.
What a Good Apology Sounds Like
Learn how to apologize to your partner in a way that actually repairs things: what a bad apology sounds like, what a good one sounds like, and why it’s so hard.
How to Ask your Partner for What You Want (Without Starting a Fight)
Hints and snide comments rarely get you what you need. Here’s the simple skill I use in my own marriage to ask for what I want, clearly and kindly.
Joint vs. Separate Accounts: How Should Couples Manage Their Money?
The pros and cons of three common setups, and how my husband and I learned what worked best for us the hard way
We Earn Very Different Amounts. Here’s How We Split Money Without Resentment.
How a guilt-free spending budget ended years of resentment, and the exact system we use now.
The One Sentence That Changed My Marriage
What I really needed 60 feet up a rock climb, and how my husband finally learned to give it to me.